Before you begin wedding planning, there’s one thing you need to do with your fiancé:
Create a wedding philosophy.
Before you pick out napkin colors, ask yourselves these questions:
1. What is the purpose of our wedding?
2. Who is our wedding for?
3. How do we want to feel at our wedding?
4. How do we want our guests to feel at our wedding?
5. What are our values and priorities?
6. What is our budget?
Framework for Tough Decisions
Your philosophy might be, “We want to honor our culture's traditions and our guests.” Then, when tough decisions come up like, “Should we spend an extra few hundred dollars to buy an arch to stand under during the ceremony?” you can look and see if it aligns with your philosophy. Is the arch an important part of your culture? Is it an important family tradition? Will your guests feel more honored seeing the arch? If the answer to these questions is "no," your decision has been made for you.
Stick to Your Philosophy
As you plan your wedding, you can continually ask yourselves, “What details will help us meet our wedding goals?” You will have to make so many difficult decisions about what to spend the budget on, so having some kind of framework to work within can really relieve stress and simplify the process. Your wedding philosophy will help you determine what's worth it to you to splurge on, and what's okay to save on, ultimately helping you stay within budget.
Inspire others by sharing your wedding philosophy in the comments below!
Photography by Jon Stars.